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heartilv; and my father and mother were able regard to you, but as it is, I beg we for it a great while, but now they say I can may be strangers for the future. Adieu. do better; but I think I cannot. They bid
.LYDIA.' me not love him, and I cannot unlove him. What must I do? Speak quickly.
• This great indifference on this subject, • BIDDY DOW-BAKE.'
and the mercenary mctives for making al
liances, is what I think lies naturally before
Feb. 19, 1712. you, and I beg of you to give me your Dear SPEC,I have loved a lady en-thoughts upon it. My answer to Lydia was tirely for this year and a half, though for a as follows, which I hope you will approve; great part of the me (which has contri- for you are to know the woman's family buted not a little to my pain) I have been affect a wonderful ease on these occasions, debarred the liberty of conversing with though they expect it should be painfully her. The grounds of our difference was received on the man's side. this; that when we had enquired into each other's circumstances, we found that at our
• Madam, -I have received yours, and first setting out into the world, we should knew the prudence of your house so well, owe five hundred pounds more than her that I always took care to be ready to obey fortune would pay off. My estate is seven your commands, though they should be to hundred pounds a-year, besides the benefit see you no more. Pray give my service to of tin mines. Now, dear Spec, upon this
all the good family. Adieu.
CLITOPHON state of the case, and the lady's positive declaration that there is still no other ob
• The opera subscription is full.' jection, I beg you will not fail to insert
MEMORANDUM. this, with your opinion, as soon as possible, whether this ought to be esteemed a just letter and report the common usages on
The censor of marriage to consider this cause or impediment why we should not be such treaties, with how many pounds or joined; and you will for ever oblige yours acres are generally esteemed sufficient reasincerely, DICK LOVESICK.'
son for preferring a new to an old pretenPOSTSCRIPT.
der; with his opinion what is proper to be “Sir, if I marry this lady by the assist- determined in such cases for the future. ance of your opinion, you may expect a fa- See No. 308, let. 1. vour for it.'
Mr. Spectator,—There is an elderly • MR. SPECTATOR,I have the misfor- person lately left off business and settled in tune to be one of those unh men who our town, in order, as he thinks, to retire are distinguished by the name of discarded from the world; but he has brought with lovers; but I am the less mortified at my him such an inclination to tale-bearing, disgrace, because the young lady is one of that he disturbs both himself and all our those creatures who set up for negligence neighbourhood. Notwithstanding this frailof men, are forsooth the most rigidly virtu- ty, the honest gentleman is so happy as to ous in the world, and yet their nicety will have no enemy: at the same time he has permit them at the command of parents to not one friend who will venture to acquaint go to bed to the most utter stranger that him with his weakness. It is not to be can be proposed to them. As to me myself, doubted, but if this failing were set in a proI was introduced by the father of my mis- per light, he would quickly perceive the tress; but find I owe my being at first re- indecency and evil consequences of it, ceived to a comparison of my estate with Now, sir, this being an infirmity which I that of a former lover, and that I am now hope may be corrected, and knowing that in like manner turned off to give way to an he pays much deference to you, I beg that humble servant still richer than I am. when you are at leisure to give us a specuWhat makes this treatment the more ex-lation on gossiping, you would think of my travagant is, that the young lady is in the neighbour. You will hereby oblige several manarement of this way of fraud, and who will be glad to find a reformation in obeys her father's orders on those occasions their grey-haired friend: and how becomwithout any manner of reluctance, but does ing will it be for him, instead of pouring it with the same ajr that one of your men forth words at all adventures, to set a of the world would signify the necessity of watch before the door of his mouth, to reaffairs for turning another out of office. frain his tongue, to check its impetuosity, When I came home last night, I found this and guard against the sallies of that little letter from my mistress:
pert, forward, busy person; which, under "Sir, I hope you will not think it is any member of society! In compliance with
a sober conduct, might prove a useful manner of disrespect to your person or merit, that the intended nuptials between those intimations, I have taken the liberty us are interrupted. My father says he has to make this address to you. I am, sir, your
most obscure servant, a much better offer for me than you can
"PHILANTHROPOS. make, and has ordered me to break off the treaty between us. If it had proceeded, I *MR. SPECTATOR,—This is to petition should have behaved myself with all suit-you in behalf of myself, and many more of
your gentle readers, that at any time when fore my house more than once this winter. you may have private reasons against let- My kinswoman likewise informs me that ting us know what you think yourself, you the girl has talked to her twice or thrice of would be pleased to pardon us such letters a gentleman in a fair wig, and that she of your correspondents as seem to be of no loves to go to church more than ever she use but to the printer.
did in her life. She gave me the slip about It is further our humble request, that a week ago, upon which my whole house you would substitute advertisements in the was in alarm. * I immediately despatched place of such epistles; and that in order a hue and cry after her to the 'Change, hereunto Mr. Buckley may be authorized to her mantua-maker, and to the young to take up of your zealous friend Mr. dies that visit her; but after above an hour's Charles Lillie, any quantity of words he search she returned of herself, having been shall from time to time have occasion for. taking a walk, as she told me, by Rosa
• The many useful parts of knowledge mond's pond. I have hereupon turned off which may be communicated to the public her woman, doubled her guards, and given this way, will, we hope, be a consideration new instructions to my relation, who, to in favour of your petitioners. And your give her her due, keeps a watchful eye petitioners, &c.'
over all her motions. This, sir, keeps me Note.—That particular regard be had to often watch when my daughter sleeps, as I
in perpetual anxiety, and makes me very this petition; and the papers marked letter am afraid she is even with me in her turn. R may be carefully examined for the fu- Now, sir, what I would desire of you is, to ture.
represent to this fluttering tribe of young fellows, who are for making their fortunes
by these indirect means, that stealing a No. 311.] Tuesday, February 26, 1711-12. man's daughter for the sake of her portion, Nec Veneris pharetris macer est, aut lampade fervet : that they make but a poor amends to the
is but a kind of a tolerated robbery; and Inde faces ardent, veniunt a dote sagittæ.
Juv. Sat, vi. 137. father, whom they plunder after this manHe sighs, adores, and courts her ev'ry hour : ner, by going to bed with his child. Dear Who would not do as much for such a dower?
sir, be speedy in your thoughts on this subr Dryden.
ject, that, if possible, they may appear be*MR. SPECTATOR,—I am amazed that, fore the disbanding of the army. I am, among all the variety of characters with sir, your most humble servant, which you have enriched your speculations,
TIM WATCHWELL,' you have never given us a picture of those audacious young fellows among us who
Themistocles, the great Athenian genecommonly go by the name of the fortune- ral, being asked whether he would rather stealers. You must know, sir, I am one who choose to marry his daughter to an indigent live in a continual apprehension of this sort man of merit, or to a worthless man of an of people, that lie in wait, day and night estate, replied, that he should prefer a man for our children, and may be considered as without an estate to an estate without a a kind of kidnappers within the law. I am man. The worst of it is, our modern forthe father of a young heiress, whom I be- tune-hunters are those who turn their heads gin to look upon as marriageable, and who that way, because they are good for nothing has looked upon herself as such for above else. If a young fellow finds he can make these six years. She is now in the eighteenth nothing of Coke and Littleton he provides year of her age. The fortune-hunters have himself with a ladder of ropes, and by that already cast their eyes upon her, and take means very often enters upon the precare to plant themselves in her view when- mises. ever she appears in any public assembly. The same art of scaling has likewise I have myself caught a young jackanapes, been practised with good success by many with a pair of silver-fringed gloves, in the military, engineers. Stratagems of this navery fact. You must know, Sir, I have kept ture make parts and industry superfluous, her as a prisoner of state, ever since she and cut short the way to riches. was in her teens. Her chamber windows Nor is vanity a less motive than idleness are cross-barred; she is not permitted to go to this kind of mercenary pursuit. A fop, out of the house but with her keeper, who is who admires his person in a glass, soon a staid relation of my own; I have likewise enters into a resolution of making his forforbid her the use of pen and ink, for this tune by it, not questioning but every wotwelvemonth last past, and do not suffer a man that falls in his way will do him as band-box to be carried into her room before much justice as he does himself. When an it has been searched. Notwithstanding heiress sees a man throwing particular these precautions, I am at my wit's end, graces into his ogle, or talking loud within for fear of any sudden surprise. There her hearing, she ought to look to herself; were, two or three nights ago, some fiddles but if withal she observes a pair of red heard in the street, which I am afraid heels, a patch, or any other particularity portend me no good: not to mention a tall in his dress, she cannot take too much care Irishman, that has been seen walking be-lof her person. These are baits not to be
trified with, charms that have done a world | No. 312.] Wednesday, Feb. 27, 1711-12. of execution, and made their way into hearts which have been thought impregnable.- quod adipisci cum dolore corporis velit, qui dolorem
Quod huic officium, quæ laus, quod derns erit tanti, The force of a man with these qualifica- summum malum sibi persuaserit? Quam porro quis tions is so well known, that I am credibly ignominium, quam turpitudinem non pertulerit, ut effu. informed there are several female under- giat dolorem, si id summum malum esse decreverit. takers about the 'Change, who, upon the
What duty, what praise, or what honour will he arrival of a likely man out of a neigh- think worth enduring bodily pain for, who has per. bouring kingdom, will furnish him with suaded himself that pain is the chief evil? Nay, 10 a proper dress from head to foot, to be avoid pain, if he has determined it to be the chief evil? paid for at a double price on the day of marriage.
It is a very melancholy reflection, that We must, however, distinguish between men are usually so weak, that it is absofortune-hunters and fortune-stealers. The lutely necessary for them to know sorrow first are those assiduous gentlemen who and pain, to be in their right senses. Prosemploy their whole lives in the chase, with- perous people (for happy there are none) out ever coming to the quarry. Suffenus are hurried away with a fond sense of their has combed and powdered at the ladies for present condition, and thoughtless of the thirty years together; and taken his stand mutability of fortune. Fortune is a term in a side-box, until he has grown wrinkled which we must use, in such discourses as under their eyes. He is now laying the these, for what is wrought by the unseen same snares for the present generation hand of the Disposer of all things. But of beauties, which he practised on their methinks the disposition of a mind which is mothers. Cottilus, after having made his truly great, is that which makes misforapplication to more than you meet with in tunes and sorrows little when they befal Mr. Cowley's ballad of mistresses, was at ourselves, great and lamentable when they last smitten with a city lady of 20,0001. befal other men. The most unpardonable sterling; but died of old age before he could malefactor in the world going to his death, bring matters to bear. Nor must I here and bearing it with composure, would win omit my worthy friend Mr. Honeycomb, the pity of those who should behold him; who has often told us in the club, that for and this not because his calamity is deplotwenty years successively upon the death rable, but because he seems himself not to of a childless rich man, he immediately deplore it. We suffer for him who is less drew on his boots, called for his horse, and sensible of his own misery, and are inclined made up to the widow. When he is rallied to despise him who sinks under the weight upon his ill success, Will, with his usual of his distresses. On the other hand, withgaiety, tells us, that he always found her out any touch of envy, a temperate and pre-engaged.
well-governed mind looks down on such as Widows are indeed the great game of are exalted with success, with a certain your fortune-hunters. There is scarce a shame for the imbecility of human nature, young fellow in the town of six foot high that can so far forget how liable it is to cathat has not passed in review before one or lamity, as to grow giddy with only the susother of these wealthy relicts. Hudibras's pense of sorrow, which is the portion of all Cupid, who
men. He therefore who turns his face from
the unhappy man, who will not look again -Took his stand
when his eye is cast upon modest sorrow, Upon a widow's* jointure land,'
who shuns affliction like a contagion, does is daily employed in throwing darts and but pamper himself up for a sacrifice, and kindling flames
. But as for widows, they contract in himself a greater aptitude to are such a subtle generation of people, that misery by attempting to escape it
. A genthey may be left to their own conduct; or tleman, where I happened to be last night, if they make a false step in it, they are an- fell into a discourse which I thought showed swerable for it to nobody but themselves. a good discerning in him. He took notice, The young innocent creatures who have no that whenever men have looked into their knowledge and experience of the world, heart for the idea of true excellence in huare those whose safety I would principally man nature, they have found it to consist consult in this speculation. The stealing
in suffering after a right manner, and with of such an one should, in my opinion, be as
a good grace. Heroes are always drawn punishable as a rape.' Where there is no bearing sorrows, struggling with adversijudgment there is no choice; and why the ties, undergoing all kinds of hardships, and inveigling a woman before she comes to having, in the service of mankind, a kind years of discretion should not be as criminal of appetite to difficulties and dangers. The as the seducing of her before she is ten gentleman went on to observe, that it is years old, I am at a loss to comprehend.
from this secret sense of the high merit L.
which there is in patience under calami
ties, that the writers of romances when * See Grey's edit. of Hudibras, vol. 1. part i. canto iii. they attempt to furnish out characters of
the highest excellence, ransack nature for
v. 212, 213
things terrible; they raise a new creation | ticularly performing the public service with of monsters, dragons, and giants; where a due zeal and devotion; I am the more enthe danger ends the hero ceases: when he couraged to lay before them by your means, has won an empire or gained his mistress, several expressions used by some of them the rest of his story is not worth relating in their prayers before sermon, which I am My friend carried his discourse so far as to not well satisfied in. As their giving some say, that it was for higher beings than men titles and epithets to great men, which are to join happiness and greatness in the same indeed due to them in their several ranks idea; but that in our condition we have no and stations, but not properly used, I think, conception of superlative excellence, or he- in our prayers. Is it not contradiction to roism, but as it is surrounded with a shade say, illustrious, right reverend, and right of distress.
honourable poor sinners? These distincIt is certainly the proper education we tions are suited only to our state here, and should give ourselves to be prepared for the have no place in heaven; we see they are ill events and accidents we are to meet with omitted in the Liturgy: which, I think, the in a life sentenced to be a scene of sorrow; clergy should take for their pattern in their but instead of this expectation, we soften own forms of devotion. There is another ourselves with prospects of constant delight, expression which I would not mention, but and destroy in our minds the seeds of for- that I have heard it several times before a titude and virtue, which should support us learned congregation, to bring in the last in hours of anguish. The constant pursuit petition of the prayer in these words, “O of pleasure has in it something insolent and let not the Lord be angry, and I will speak improper for our being. There is a pretty but this once;" as if there was no difference sober liveliness in the ode of Horace to between Abraham's interceding for Sodom, Delius, where he tells him, loud mirth, or for which he had no warrant, as we can immoderate sorrow, inequality of behavi- find, and cur asking those things which we our, either in prosperity or adversity, are are required to pray for; they would therealike ungraceful in man, that is born to die. fore have much more reason to fear his Moderation in both circumstances is pecu- anger, if they did not make such petitions liar to generous minds. Men of that sort to him. There is another pretty fancy: ever taste the gratifications of health, and when a young man has a mind to let us all other advantages of life, as if they were know who gave him his scarf, he speaks a liable to part with them, and when bereft parenthesis to the Almighty. “Bless, as I of them, resign them with a greatness of am in duty bound to pray, the right homind which shows they know their value nourable the countess;" is not that as much and duration. The contempt of pleasure as to say, “Bless her, for thou knowest I is a certain preparatory for the contempt am her chaplain?” Your humble servant, of pain. Without this the mind is, as it T.
J. O.' were, taken suddenly by an unforeseen event; but he that has always, during health and prosperity, been abstinent in No. 313.] Thursday, Feb. 28, 1711-12. his satisfactions, enjoys, in the worst of difficulties, the reflection, that his anguish Exigite ut mores teneros seu pollice ducat is not aggravated with the comparison of
Ut si quis cera vultum facitpast pleasures which upbraid his present condition. Tully tells us a story after Pom
Bid him besides his daily pains employ,
To form the tender manners of the boy, pey, which gives us a good taste of the
And work him, like a waxen babe, with art, pleasant manner the men of wit and philo To perfect symmetry in ev'ry part.-Ch. Dryden. sophy had in old times, of alleviating the distresses of life by the force of reason and
I shall give the following letter no philosophy. Pompey, when he came to other recommendation than by telling my Rhodes, had a curiosity to visit the famous
* In the original folio edition of this paper, there was philosopher Possidonius; but finding him the following passage, after the above sentence. in his sick bed, he bewailed the misfortune [Another expression which I take to be improper, is that he should not hear a discourse from this, the whole race of mankind,' when they pray for
all men; for race signifies lineage or descent; and if himBut you may,' answered Possidonius; the race of mankind may be used for the present geneand immediately entered into the point of ration: (though, I think, not
very fitly) the whole race
takes in all from the beginning to the end of the world. stoical philosophy, which says, pain is not I do not remember to have met with that expression, in an evil. During the discourse, upon every their sense, any where
but in the old version of Psalm puncture he felt from his distemper, he xiv, which those men, I suppose, have but little esteem smiled and cried out, Pain, pain, be as and nurseries of good learning and true religion, espe. impertinent and troublesome as you please, cially the two universities, add these words, Grant that I shall never own that thou art an evil.' from them, and all other places dedicated to thy wor
ship and service, may come forth such persons,' &c. But
what do they mean by all other places ? It seems to me, • MR. SPECTATOR,–Having seen in se that this is either a tautology, as being the same with veral of your papers a concern for the all schools and nurseries before expressed, or else it honour of the clergy, and their doing every the divine service, which cannot properly be intended
runs too far; for there are several places dedicated to thing as becomes their character, and par- 1 here.]
Juv. Sat. vii. 237.
readers that it comes from the same hand | One of the greatest writers our nation with that of last Thursday,
ever produced, observes, that a boy who
forms parties, and makes himself popular Sir, I send you according to my pro- in a school or a college would act the same mise, some farther thoughts on the educa- part with equal ease in a senate or a privy tion of youth, in which I intend to discuss council; and Mr. Osborne, speaking like a that famous question, "Whether the edu- man versed in the ways of the world, afcation at a public school, or under a private firms, that the well laying and carrying on tutor, is to be preferred?”
a design to rob an orchard, trains up a • As some of the greatest men in most youth insensibly to caution, secrecy, and ages have been of very different opinions in circumspection, and fits him for matters of this matter, I shall give a short account of greater importance. what I think may be best urged on both . In short, a private education seems the sides, and afterwards leave every person to most natural method for the forming of a determine for himself.
virtuous man; a public education for making • It is certain from Suetonius, that the a man of business. The first would furnish Romans thought the education of their chil- out a good subject for Plato's republic, the dren a business properly belonging to the latter a member of a community overrun parents themselves; and Plutarch, in the with artifice and corruption. life of Marcus Cato, tells us, that as soon • It must, however, be confessed, that a as his son was capable of learning, Cato person at the head of a public school has would suffer nobody to teach him but him- sometimes so many boys under his direcself, though he had a servant named Chilo, tion, that it is impossible he should extend who was an excellent grammarian, and a due proportion of his care to each of who taught a great many other youths. them. This is, however, in reality, the
On the contrary, the Greeks seemed fault of the age, in which we often see more inclined to public schools and semi- twenty parents, who, though each expects naries.
his son should be made a scholar, are not "A private education promises, in the contented altogether to make it worth first place, virtue and good breeding; and a while for any man of a liberal education to public school, manly assurance, and an early take upon him the care of their instruction. knowledge in the ways of the world. • In our great schools, indeed, this fault
•Mr. Locke, in his celebrated treatise of has been of te years rectified, so that we education, confesses, that there are incon- have at present not only ingenious men for veniences to be feared on both sides: “ If,” the chief masters, but such as have proper says he," I keep my son at home, he is in ushers and assistants under them. must danger of becoming my young master; if I nevertheless own, that for want of the same send him abroad, it is scarce possible to encouragement in the country, we have keep him from the reigning contagion of many a promising genius spoiled and abused rudeness and vice. He will perhaps be in those little seminaries. more innocent at home, but more ignorant I am the more inclined to this opinion, of the world, and more sheepish when he having myself experienced the usage of comes abroad.” However, as this learned two rural masters, each of them very unfit author asserts, that virtue is much more for the trust they took upon them to disdifficult to be obtained than knowledge of charge. The first imposed much more the world, and that vice is a more stubborn, upon me than my parts, though none of as well as a more dangerous fault than the weakest, could endure; and used me sheepishness, he is altogether for a private barbarously for not performing impossibilieducation; and the more so, because he ties. The latter was of quite another temdoes not see why a youth, with right man- per; and a boy who would run upon his agement, might not attain the same assur- errands, wash his coffee-pot, or ring the ance in his father's house as at a public bell, might have as little conversation with school. To this end, he advises parents to any of the classics as he thought fit. I have accustom their sons to whatever strange known a lad at this place excused his exerfaces come to the house: to take them with cise for assisting the cook-maid; and rethem when they visit their neighbours, and member a neighbouring gentleman's son to engage them in conversation with men was among us five years, most of which of parts and breeding.
time he employed in airing and watering • It may be objected to this method, that our master's gray pad. I scorned to comconversation is not the only thing neces- pound for my faults by doing any of these sary; but that unless it be a conversation elegant offices, and was accordingly the with such as are in some measure their best scholar, and the worst used of any boy equals in parts and years, there can be no in the school. room for emulation, contention, and several I shall conclude this discourse with an of the most lively passions of the mind; advantage mentioned by Quintilian, as acwhich, without being sometimes moved, by companying a public way of education, these means, many possibly contract a dul- / which I have not yet taken notice of; ness and insensibility.
namely, that we very often contract such