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" receive it, and immediately, with his own Hand, killed « himself.'
Of their Fidelity there are infinite Examples ; amongst which, that of those who were besieged in Fidelity of the Salona, a City that stood for Casar against Garrison of Pompey, is not, for the Rarity of an Accident Salona. that there happened, to be forgot. Marcus Ostavius kept them close besieged ; they within being reduced to the extremeft Neceflity of all Things, so that, to supply the want of Men, most of them being either nain or wounded, they had set all their Slaves at Liberty, and had been constrained to cut off all the Women's Hair, to twist instead of Cordage, besides a wonderful Dearth of Vicţuals, yet they continued resolute never to yield : After having drawn the Siege to a great length, by which Oxtavius was grown more negligent, and less attentive to his Enterprise, they made choice of one Day about Noon, and, having first placed the Women and Children upon the Walls to make a Shew, they fallied upon the Besiegers with such Fury, that, having routed the first, seconda and third Corps, and afterwards the fourth, and then the rest, and beaten them all out of their Trenches, they pursued them even to their Ships; and Ostavius himself was forced to fly to Dyrrachium, where Pompey lay. I do not, at present, remember, that I have met with any other Example, where the Besieged ever gave the Besiegers a total Defeat, and won the Field ; nor that a Şally ever was attended with a pure and entire Victory.
CHA P. XXXV.
Of Three. good WOMEN.
HEY don't run thirteen to the Dozen, as every
one knows, and especially in the Duties of Marriage ; for that is a Bargain full of so many True Proof of nice Circumstances, that 'tis hard for a Wo- a good Marman's Will to keep to it long: Men, thoʻriage,
their & Cæfar. Bell. Civil. lib. i. c. 3.
their Condition be something better under that Tie, have yet enough to do : The true Touchstone and Teit of a happy Marriage respects the Time of their Cohabitation only, whether it has been constant, mild, loyal, and commodious.
In our Age, Women commonly reserve the Publication Montaigne's of their good Offices, and their vehement Opinion
of the Affection for their Husbands, till they have Women, who lost them; or, at least, then it is that they neper declare their love for deign to give Proofs of their Good-will: Á their Husbands too low Testimony, and that comes too late ; till they are by which they rather manifest, that they never
loved them till dead. Their Life is full of Combustion, their Death full of Love and Courtesy: As Fathers conceal their Affections from their Children, Women likewise conceal theirs from their Husbands to maintain a modest Respect. This is a Mystery I do not relish; 'tis to much Purpose that they scratch themselves, and tear their Hair. I whisper in a Waiting-woman's, or a Secretary's Ear, How were they? How did they live together ? I always have that Saying in my Head, Ja£tantius mærent, quee minus dolent : · They make the most ado, who are
least concerned.' Their Whimpering is offensive to the Living, and vain to the Dead : We should willingly give them Leave to laugh after we are dead, provided they will smile upon us whilst we are alive. Is it not enough to make a Man revive in Spite, that she who spit in my Face whilft I was, shall come to kiss my Feet when I am no more? If there be any Honour in lamenting a Hulband, it only appertains to those who smiled upon them whilst they had them; let those who wept during their Lives, laugh at their Deaths, as well outwardly as inwardly : Moreover, never regard those blubbered Eyes, and that pitiful Voice; but consider her Deportment, her Complexion, and the Plumpness of her Cheeks under all those formal Veils ; 'tis there the Discovery is to be made. There are few who do not mend upon't, and Health is a Quality that cannot lye : That starched and ceremonious Countenance looks not so much back as forward, and is father intended to get a new Husband, than to lament
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the old. When I was a Boy, a very beautiful and virtuous Lady, who is yet living, and the Widow of a Prince, had, I know not what, more Ornament in her Dress than our Laws of Widowhood will well allow; which being reproached withal, as a great Indecency, she made Answer, That it was because she was not cultivating more Friendships, and would never marry again.”
I have here, not at all diffenting from our Custom, made choice of three Women, who have also expressed the utmost of their Goodness and Affections about their Husbands Deaths ; yet are they Examples of another kind than are now in Use, and so severe, as will hardly be drawn into Imitation.
The younger Pliny had, near a House of his in Italy, a Neighbour, who was exceedingly tormented with cerțain Ulcers in his private Parts : His Wife, seeing him so long to languish, intreated that he would give her Leave to see, and at Leisure to consider of the State of his Difease ; adding, that she would freely tell him what she thought of it: This Permission being obtained, she curiously examined the Business, found it impossible he could ever be cured, and that all he was to expect, was a great while to linger out a painful and miserable Life ; and therefore, as the most sure and sovereign Remedy, The resolutely advised him to kill himself: But finding him a little tender and backward in so rude an Attempt : Da not think, my Dear, said she, that I have not an equal
Feeling of the Torments which I see thou endurest, and that, to deliver myself from them, I will not myself
make Use of the fame Remedy I have prescribed to thee: ! I will accompany thee in the Cure, as I have done in the « Disease ; fear nothing, but believe that we shall have ^ Pleasure in this Passage that is to free us from so many ! Miseries, and go off happily together.' Having said this, and roused up her Husband's Courage, the resolved that they should throw themselves headlong into the Sea, out of a Window that leaned over it; and that she might maintain, to the last, the loyal and vehement Affection wherewith she had embraced him during his Life, she would
yet Ep. 24. lib. 6,
yet have him die in her Arms; but for fear they should
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From hence did Justice take her Flight, and here
The other two are Noble and Rich, where Examples of Virtue are rarely lodged. Arria, the Wife of Cecing Pætus, a consular Perfon, was the Mother of another Arria, the Wife of Thrasea Pætus, whose Virtue was so renowned in the Time of Nero, and, by Means of this Sonin-Law, the Grand-mother of Fannia : For the Refemblance of the Names of these Men and Women, and their The Story of
Fortunes, has led many into a Mistake. This the Death of
first Arria (her Husband Cecina Pætus havArria, the
ing been made Prisoner by some of the EmWife of Ce
peror Claudius's People, after Scribonianus's cina Pætus.
Defeat, whose Party he had embraced in the War) begged of those who were carrying him Prisoner
to Rome, that they would take her into their Ship, where • she should be of much less Charge and Trouble to them • than a great many Persons they must otherwise have to
attend her Husband, and that she alone would underI take to serve him in his Chamber, his Kitchen, and all • other Offices k' But they refused her, wherefore she put herself into a Fishing-boat she hired on a sudden, and in that Manner followed him from Sclavonia. Being come to Rome, Junia, the Widow of Scribonianus, one Day, confidering the Resemblance of their Fortunes, and accosting her in the Emperor's Presence, in a familiar Way, she rudely repulsed her with these Words, “Shall I, said she, speak ! to thee, or give Ear to any Thing thou sayest; to thee,
in Virg. Georg. lib. ii. v. 473. Plin. Ep. 16. lib. iii.
' in whose Lap Scribonianus was slain, and thou yet alive?'
the same Fortune that Cecina has done, would you that
your Daughter, my Wife, should do the same? Would • Il replied she, yes, yes, I would, if she had lived as long,
and in as good Agreement with thee as I have done (with my Husband.
Husband. These Answers made them more
Death, but to keep me from dying is not in your Pow-