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chair on taking or leaving your place.

19. Avoid hasty movements, and be sure that the food never falls from your plate upon the table cloth.

20. However poor and scanty the fare, let it be partaken of with a cheerful disposition and a proper observance of forms. It is conducive to health, both moral and physical. It were hard to say which is worse at the table, illcooked food orangry or unpleasant subjects of conversation.

21. In the best regulated households meals will be served at regular hours, and every member of the family should be prompt in attendance, remaining in his seat, if possible, until the repast is finished. 22. It is considered a mark of grossness, by some,

to discuss the quality of the food upon the table, whether good or bad ; or to handle or touch with the fingers the food that others are to eat; or to eat eggs from a tumbler or goblet; or to churn them therein.

23. It is not refined to speak, as some do, of “washing down” food by wine or other beverage.

24. It is better to make use of the proper implements for feeding than to resort to the fingers as people sometimes do.

25. Some refined persons when speaking of eating a meal, never designate it by the pronoun my, as my dinner, my supper, etc.

It sounds selfish.

If we sit down at set of sun,
And count the things that we have done,

And, counting, find
One self denying act, one word

That fell like sunshine where it went;-
Then we may count that day well spent.

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But if through all the livelong day,
We've eased no heart by yea or nay;

If through it all
We've done no thing that we can trace,
That brought the sunshine to a face;

No act most small,
That helped some soul, and nothing cost;-
Then count that day as worse than lost.

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1. Riding is an accomplishment in which all ladies and gentlemen desire to be proficient; but to ride well one must be taught early and practice constantly. Riding, like swimming, cannot be taught by precept.

2. The art of mounting gracefully must be properly acquired. The lady, having mounted the riding steps, places her left foot in the stirrup, rises into her seat,

and lifts the right leg dexterously into its place, taking care to let the habit fall properly and gracefully. If no mounting steps are at hand, it is the place of her escort or groom to assist her to the saddle.' Hence it is necessary to learn to mount in both ways. In the latter case she puts her left foot in the right hand of the gentleman or servant in attendance; he lifts it vigorously but gently; and she springs lightly into the saddle.

3. The great point in riding is to sit straight in your saddle ; never lean forward, nor ride too fast, nor rise in trotting. In passing a person whom you may meet on the road, always turn to the right.

4. The chief point in driving is moderation. Never urge your horse in going either up or down hill; turn corners with a gentle speed, and never assume any airs of exhilaration. Ladies who drive ought to know something about the harness. On alighting from or entering the

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5. A gentleman in riding, as in walking, gives the Jady the wall. If he assists a lady to mount, he holds his hand at a convenient distance from the ground that she may place her foot in it. As she springs he aids her by a firm, steady lift. Practice only will enable one to do this properly. A gentleman, while riding with a lady, never permits her to pay the tolls.

6. In the carriage a gentleman places himself with his back to the horses and leaves the best seat for the ladies. Only very elderly gentlemen are privileged to accept the best seat to the exclusion of young ladies. No gentleman in a double carriage alone with a lady should sit beside her, unless he is her husband, father, son, or brother. Even an affianced lover should observe this rule of etiquette.

7. With respect to the promenade—a gentleman cannot offer to escort a lady home from a party, unless at the intimation or with the sanction of the lady of the house. If she declines the offer of his arm he should not repeat it.

8. On meeting friends or acquaintances in the streets,
at exhibitions, or any other public places, one must be
careful not to pronounce their names so loudly as to at-
tract the attention of strangers. Never call across the
street, and never attempt to carry on a dialogue with one
when other persons are intervening between him and

9. A lady should not enter into conversation with
a gentleman with whom she is unacquainted, though, if
addressed in a respectful manner, she must

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unless men whose acquaintance the lady does not wish to keep up persist in bowing. Disdain or scorn does not become beauty.

11. If a lady has had any gentleman especially introduced to her at a party, has talked much to him, and has been, perhaps, led down by him to dinner or supper, she may bow if she meets him next day in the promenade, or on the street; but never recognize a gentleman unless you are perfectly sure of his identity. Though ladies usually bow while giving or returning a salute, yet at times the courtesy possesses infinitely more grace and attractiveness, especially when done in the proper spirit. It exhibits a finer degree of homage and regard than the bow.

12. If a gentleman meets a lady with whom he is quite intimate, in the streets, and desires to converse with her, he should not stop her, but turn and walk beside her in whichever direction she is going. When he has said all that he wished to say, he can take his leave. If he meets with a lady with whom he is not particularly well acquainted, he should wait for her recognition before he ventures to bow to her. In bowing to a lady he lifts his hat with the hand farthest from her. If he is on horseback and wishes to converse with a lady who is on foot, he must dismount and lead his horse. A gentleman cannot cut a lady under any possible circumstances : nor are there bardly any conditions where it is permissible even with the men. The true gentleman is seldom ever driven to such a strong means of self-defence.

13. Never stare at ladies nor at strangers in the street.

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