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dress, like his manners, should never attract attention. True elegance and refinement will ever show themselves in simplicity.
7. As another general principle in dress, care is to be taken that it should not fit so closely as to compress the muscles, or person, or in any way interfere with perfect ease and freedom of movement. Especially ought young and growing persons to have their dress loose and easy. The chest ought never to be constrained, but to have the most perfect liberty to expand; because free and open lungs are essential to health. Perhaps there is no other attention in rearing children of more importance than this; and there is none which is more neglected by heads of families. The list of diseases attributed to tightlacing and close-fitting dress is revolting. We have seen them enumerated as follows: headache, giddiness, tendency to fainting, pain in the eyes, pain and ringing in the ears, bleeding at the nose, shortness of breath, spitting of blood, derangement of the circulation, palpitation of the heart, water in the chest, loss of appetite, squeamishness, depraved digestion, colic pains, induration of the liver, dropsy, rupture, consumption, etc.
8. To compress the frame in which the vital organs are arranged, would be like compressing the case of a watch so as to interfere with its interior machinery. On this account the dress should not only fit easily, but the person should always be borne in a proper position, either in walking or sitting, with the shoulders always thrown back so as to give the chest and lungs free play. It is in such a position that one ought to be measured for his dress.
venectual cu acti ULICUAL MVM ՆԱՆԱ- vu gVIཝ and precious stones. Ladies should never wear jewelry before dinner, and the less it is worn by gentlemen the better. Let such as is worn by them be plain and simple. The golden rule in dress is to avoid extremes.
10. Lord Chesterfield held it as a maxim, that a person who is negligent of his person and dress at twenty, will be slovenly at forty, and intolerable at fifty years of age.
11. Never cultivate a taste for the false in anything, in dress, furniture, pictures, nor ornaments. As nearly as possible let everything you possess be what it seems to be. To cultivate a false taste is like building one's house upon the sand; you know not when it may bring upon you disconcertment and confusion.
12. False tastes are acquired by inattention to material differences, by habitually confounding distinctions, and mixing incongruous things. Persons of refined tastes and cultivated manners will seek to avoid incongruities under every circumstance of life.
13. Those who quit their proper character to assume what does not belong to them, either in dress or any thing else, are, for the greater part, ignorant both of the character they leave and of the character they assume.
The look of sympathy, the gentle word
Which sat like Mary at the Master's feet;
The kindly plans devised for others' good,
Not lost, O Lord, for in Thy city bright,
CARRIAGE AND BEARING.
Too great care cannot be taken with children from their earliest days, by parents and teachers, to insure a proper bearing of the person. We have already alluded to this subject under the head of dress. The same frightful catalogue of diseases which are incurred from tightlacing, or too confining garments, may also be produced, to some extent, by neglecting a proper carriage. An erect position of the person, whether walking, standing, or sitting, is essential to the health of body and mind, as well as to personal appearance. The shoulders should always be kept thrown back, and the breast fully expanded; otherwise the lungs will be compressed and the whole machinery of the system, of which they are the prime motive power, will become deranged. When an erect, upright position of the body has once been acquired, it becomes easy and graceful, as it is the most natural.
2. And, in order to acquire the habit of an erect, easy carriage, the training should commence early. A child should be constantly cautioned against allowing itself to fall into a slouching, lolling attitude; and for this purpose it should never be permitted to sit upon a lounge, sofa, rocking chair, or armed chair; for upon such seats it is
more or less oppress the lungs. A plain school bench, or stool, or a straight back chair, is the proper kind of seat for children, and it were well to allow them no other.
3. As our climate is an excessive one, subject to sudden and extreme alternations of cold and heat, and of dryness and moisture, it operates powerfully upon the human frame to give it a dejected, delapsed attitude, and the greater care, therefore, is necessary to contend against it. The sinews and muscles must be knit in a proper position while the person is young and growing. Even the position which the child occupies in bed should be carefully attended to; and it should never bury its head under the clothes, nor double itself up in a heap.
4. A well-bred person may be recognized by his bearing. He never lolls, nor lounges, nor supports his arms or legs upon the furniture, nor puts his feet upon the rounds of chairs; he never throws his arms over the railing of the pew, nor leans against it slouchingly while at church. He generally sits upright, with his feet upon the floor, is seldom restless in his position, and is always quiet and unobtrusive in changing it. Especially in church will his bearing be quiet and subdued; never in the house of God will he, on any occasion, indulge in loud talking, nor in laughing, nor in noisy movements.
5. Awkwardness of attitude does one the same ill service as awkwardness of speech. Lolling, gesticulating, fidgeting, and the like, evince a want of training, and are not creditable to those who exhibit them. A lady who sits cross legged, or side-wise on her chair, who has the habit of holding her chin, bites her nails, twirls her watch