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genius for getting up an entertainment to please friends that it did to draw up an army for defeating enemies. For wbich purpose is it better that genius should be employed ?
54. The person wlio squanders his fortune on needless objects is not more unwise than he who makes a too extravagant or too familiar use of love and friendship ; for these are treasures of greater price than fame or riches.
55. A particular observance of conventional forms, especially with intimate friends, may seem of trifling importance to some; but forms may be compared to the vase in which the sweetest essence is preserved ; if the vase be broken the essence is likely to become lost. It is well not to be so familiar with any one as to enter his house or room without knocking.
56. As nearly as practicable mathematical exactness should be the spirit of our business transactions; and especially between friends. While generosity is a virtue that graces social interconrse, honesty is what is chiefly looked for in trade. While praying not to be led into temptation ourselves, we ought not to lead others into it, even to the extent of leaving an open till exposed to the most wealthy.
57. Of the well bred it may be said, in the words of Longfellow's Dante,
They are so privileged by use and Nature,
со трае до реі опw pride as much as possible. Let guilt appear in the facts proved, rather than in the charges made; in the opinions of others rather than in the passionate denunciations of the accuser. The worst thing that we can say of the worst possible of men, can be easily echoed back by them upon ourselves; but he must be a very abandoned character indeed, who will treat us ill, if we strive to think well of him.
BY THOMAS RANDOLPH, 1630.
Think that is just; 'tis not enough to do,
Their brutal lusts, lest they should witness it.
Would'st thou live long? the only means are these,
1. Before alluding to the subject of dress, it is proper to make some reference to personal cleanliness ; for it is evident that the person should require our first care and attention. As courtesy and politeness are practised for our own sakes rather than for others, beginning in its motive where charity begins, viz: at home, it is far better to have
clean person and a coarse dress than a fine, fashionable dress with an unclean person. Ladies especially should remember this. Personal cleanliness is nearly related to gentility and moral purity; and no one can properly respect himself and others who neglects it. It is, moreover, as essential to the health of the body and mind, and to beauty, as it is to comfort and decency. How much sickness and disease, of various kinds, are contracted by a mere neglect of personal cleanliness !
2. To insure cleanliness of person frequent bathing is absolutely indispensable. We bathe, it should be remembered, not so much to become clean as to remain clean. It has been recommended by able writers on good manners that the bath should be taken by persons in good health once a day in winter, and twice a day in summer. For persons of really robust constitutions the cold shower bath is very refreshing and agreeable ; but, as a general rule, the
vurug itauny within the reach of every one, rich or poor, and under all circumstances. For cleansing purposes soap should be used, and the water should be about the temperature of the person, or such that it is not perceived to be either hot or cold. Close with a showering or rinsing of cool, pure water followed by a hard frictional rubbing with a coarse towel.
3. The teeth must be very carefully brushed, not only night and morning, but after every meal. Hard tooth brushes are not advisable, and a simple tooth powder of common chalk or charcoal is safer and more effectual than any quack prescriptions.
4. The nails must always be clean, evenly trimmed, and never allowed to grow inordinately long.
5. Never attend to your dress, cut your nails, comb your hair, nor pick your teeth or ears in company, nor in the streets. The place to attend to your toilet is in your own apartments; and when you are once carefully dressed, you will give the matter no farther consideration. Of course you will never insert your fingers in your nose or ears, nor use upon them any but the proper appliances, nor scratch the head nor any part of the person in the streets, nor in the presence of others, nor look in your handkerchief after blowing the nose; for a well bred person is taught to avoid such gross habits from his earliest youth. If it should become necessary to attend to such matters, one must withdraw by himself, to his own room if possible, or at all events aim not to be offensive.
6. Dress has been considered, by some, to rank among the fine arts. To dress well requires taste, good sense, and refinement. The fashions must always be followed