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gentle Usage? It is the common Vice of Children to run too much among the Servants; from such as are educated in thefe Places they would see nothing but Löwliness in the Servant, which would not bedisingenuous in the Child. All the ill Offices and defamatory Whispers which take their Birth from Domesticks, would be prevented, if this Charity could be made universal; and a good Man might have a Knowledge of the whole Life of the Perfons he designs to take into his House for his own Service, or that of his Family or Children long before they were admitted. This would create endearing Dependencies : and the Obligation would have a paternal Air in the Master, who would be relieved from much Care and Anxiety from the Gratitude and Diligence of an humble Friend attending him as his Servant. I fall into this Discourse from a Letter sent to me, to give me notice that Fifty Boys would be Cloathed, and take their Seats (at the Charge of fome generous Benefactors) in St. Bride's Church on Sunday next. I wiih I could promise to my self any thing which my Correspondent seems to expect from a Publication of it in this paper ; for there can be nothing added to what so many excellent and learned Men have laid on this Oc. casion : But that there may be something here which would move a generous Mind, like that of him who writ to me, I shall transcribe an handsome Paragraph of Dr. Snape's Sermon on these Charities, which my Correspondent inclosed with this Letter.
THE wife Providence has amply compensated the Difadvantages of the Poor and Indigent, in wanting many of the Conveniencies of this Life, by a more abundant Provision for their Happiness in the next. Had they been higher born or more richly endowed, they would have wanted this Manner of Education, of which those only
enjoy the Benefit, who are low enough to submit to it; - muhere they have such Advantages without Money, and
without Price, as the Rich cannot purchase with it. The Learning which is given, is generally more edifying to them, than that which is sold to others : Tbus do they become more exalted in Goodness, by being depressed in For. tune, and their Poverty is, in Reality, their Preferment,
N? 295. Thursday, February 7.
Prodiga non sentit pereuntem fæmina cenfum :
Mr. SPECTATOR, "I Am turned of my great Climacteric, and am natu« | rally a Man of a meek Temper. About a dozen •* Years ago I was married, for my Sins, to a young « Woman of a good Family, and of an high Spirit ; but • could not bring her to close with me, before I had en• tered into a Treaty with her longer than that of the • Grand Alliance. Among other Articles, it was therein « ftipulated, that she should have 4001. a Year for Pin-mo« ney, which I obliged my self to pay Quarterly into the • hands of one who acted as her Plenipotentiary in that Af« fair. I have ever since religiously observed my part in • this solemn Agreement. Now, Sir, so it is, that the Lady
has had several Children since I married her; to which, • if I should credit our malicious Neighbours, her Pin• money has not a little contributed. The Education of « these my Children, who, contrary to my Expectation, & are born to me every Year, ftraitens me so much, « that I have begged their Mother to free me from the • Obligation of the above-mentioned Pin-money, that it • may go towards making a Provision for her Family. This • Proposal makes her noble Blood swell in her Veins, in« somuch that finding mea little tardy in her last Quarter's « Payment, the threatens me every Day to arrest me; " and proceeds so far as to tell me, that if I do not do her • Justice, I shall dye in a Jayl. To this she adds, when « her Passion will let her argue calmly, that she has seve. 'ral Play-Debts on her Hand, which must be discharged • very suddenly, and that she cannot lose her Money as • becomes a Woman of her Fashion, if the makes me any
• Abatements in this Article. I hope, Sir, you will take ' an Occasion from hence to give your Opinion upon a • Subject which you have not yet touched, and inform us • if there are any Precedents for this Usage among our « Ancestors ; or whether you find any mention of Pin-mo6 ney in Grotius, Puffendorf, or any other of the Civilians. I am ever the humbleft of your Admirers,
Josiah Fribble, Esq; AS there is no man living who is a more professed Advocate for the fair Sex than my self, so there is none that would be more unwilling to invade any of their ancient Rights and Privileges; but as the Doctrine of Pinmoney is of a very late Date, unknown to our Great Grandmothers, and not yet received by many of our Modern Ladies, I think it is for the Interest of both Sexes to keep it from spreading.
Mr. FRIBBLE may not, perhaps, be much mistaken where he intimates, that the supplying a Man's Wife with Pin-money, is furnishing her with Arms against himself, and in a manner becoming accessary to his own Dishonour. We may, indeed, generally observe, that in proportion as a Woman is more or less Beautiful, and her Husband advanced in Years, the stands in need of a greater or less number of Pins, and upon a Treaty of Marriage, rises or falls in her Demands accordingly. It must likewise be owned, that high Quality in a Mistress does very much inflame this Article in the Marriage Reckoning.
BUT where the Age and Circumstances of both Parties are pretty much upon a level, I cannot but think the insisting upon Pin-Money is very extraordinary; and yet we find several Matches broken off upon this very Head. What would a Foreigner or one who is a Stranger to this Practice, think of a Lover that forsakes his Mistress, because he is not willing to keep her in Pins; but what would he think of the Mistress, should he be informed that she asks five or fix hundred Pounds a Year for this Use? Should a Man unacquainted with our Customs be told the Sums which are allowed in Great Britain, under the Title of Pin-money, what a prodigious Consumption of Pins would he think there was in this Island ? á Pin a Day, says our frugal Proverb, is a Groat a Year, so that ac
cording cording to this Calculation, my Friend Fribble's Wife muft every Year make use of Eight millions fix hundred and forty thousand new Pins.
I am not ignorant that our British Ladies alledge they comprehend under this general Term several other Conveniencies of Life; I could therefore wish, for the Honour of my Country-women, that they had rather called it Needle-money, which might have implied something of Good-housewifry, and not have given the malicious World occasion to think, that Dress and Trifle have always the uppermost Place in a Woman's Thoughts.
I know feveral of my fair Readers urge, in defence of this Prađice, that it is but a necessary Provision they make for themselves, in case their Husband proves a Churl or a Miser; so that they consider this Allowance as a kind of Alimony, which they may lay their Clain to without actually separating from their Husbands. But with Submillion, I think a Woman who will give up her felf to a Man in Marriage, where there is the least Room for such an Apprehension, and trust her Person to one whom she will not rely on for the common Necessaries of Life, may very properly be accused (in the Phrase of an homely Proverb) of being Penny wife and Pound foolish.
IT is observed of over-cautious Generals, that they ne. ver engage in a Battle without securing a Retreat, in case the Event should not answer their Expectations ; on the other hand, the greatest Conquerors have burnt their Ships, or broke down the Bridges behind them, as being determined either to succeed or die in the Engagement. In the same manner I should very much suspect a Woman who takes such Precautions for her Retreat, and contrives Methods how the may live happily, without the Affecti. on of one to whom she joins herself for Life. Separate Purses between Man and Wife are, in my opinion, as unnatural as separate Beds. A Marriage cannot be happy, where the Pleasures, Inclinations, and Interests of both Parties are not the same. There is no greater Incitement to Love in the Mind of Man, than the Sense of a Person's depending upon him for her Ease and Happiness ; as a Woman uses all her Endeavours to please the Person whom the looks upon as her Honour, her Comfort, and her Support.
FOR this Reason I am not very much surprized at the Behaviour of a rough Country Squire, who, being not a little shocked at the Proceeding of a young Widow that would not recede from her Demands of Pin-money, was so enraged at her mercenary Temper, that he told her in great Wrath, “ As much as she thought him her • Slave, he would sew all the World he did not care a
Pin for her.' Upon which he flew out of the Room, and never saw her more.
SOCRATES, in Plato's Alcibiades, says, he was informed by one who had travelled through Persia, that as he passed over a great Tract of Lands, and inquired what the Name of the Place was, they told him it was the Queen's Girdle; to which he adds, that another wide Field which lay by it, was called the Queen's Veil; and that in the same Manner there was a large Portion of Ground set aside for every part of her Majesty's Dress. These Lands might not be improperly called the Queen of Perfia's Pin-money.
I remember my Friend Sir ROGER, who I dare say never read this Passage in Ploto, told me some time since that upon his courting the Perverse Widow (of whom I have given an Account in former Papers) he had disposed of an hundred Acres in a Diamond-Ring, which he would have presented her with, had she thought fit to accept it; and that upon her Wedding Day she should have carried on her Head fifty of the tallest Oaks upon his Eftate. He further informed me that he would have given her a Cole-pit to keep her in clean Linen, that he would have allowed her the Profits of a Windmill for her Fans, and have presented her once in three Years with the Sheering of his Sheep for her Under-Petticoats. To which the Knight always adds, that though he did not care for fine Cloaths himself, there should not have been a Woman in the Country better dressed than my Lady Coverley. Sir Roger, perhaps, 'may in this, as well as in many other of his Devices, appear something odd and singular, but if the Humour of Pin-money prevails, I think it would be very proper for every Gentleman of an Estate to mark out so many Acres of it under the Title of The Pins. L