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original extraction and birth67, she sucked that love of hospitality hospitality which hath celebrated that family in many generations successively) which dwelt in her to her end. But in that ground, her father's family, she grew not many yearsI transplanted young from thence by marriage into another family of honour68, as a flower that doubles and multiplies by transplantation, she multiplied into ten children, Job's number, and Job's distribution (as she herself would very often remember), seven sons and three daughters: and in this ground she grew not many years more than were necessary for the producing of so many plants. And being then left to choose her own ground in her widowhood, having at home established and increased the estate, with a fair and noble addition, proposing to herself, as her principal care, the education of her children. To advance that she came with them, and dwelt with them in the university, and recompensed to them the loss of a father, in giving them two mothers, her own personal care, and the advantage of that place; where she contracted a friendship with divers reverend persons of eminency and estimation there, which continued to their ends. And as this was her greatest business, so she made this state a large period, for in this state of widowhood she continued twelve years: and then, returning to a second marriage, that second marriage turns us to the consideration of another personal circumstance, that is, the natural endowments of her person, which were such, as that though her virtues were his principal object, yet even these, her personal and natural endowments, had their part in drawing and fixing the affections ofouch a person m, as by his birth, and youth, and interest in great favours in court, and legal proximity to great possessions in the world, might justly have promised him acceptance in what family soever, or upon what person soever, he had directed and placed his affections. He placed them here, neither diverted then nor repented since; for as the well tuning of an instrument makes higher and lower strings of one sound, so the inequality of their years was thus reduced to an evenness, that she had a cheerfulness agreeable to his youth, and he a sober staidness conformable to her more years. So that I would not consider her at so much more than forty, nor him at so much less than thirty, at that time; but as their persons were made one, and their fortunes made one, by marriage, so I would put their years into one number, and, finding a sixty between them, think them thirty apiece, for as twins of one hour they lived. God, who joined them then, having also separated them now, may make their years even this other way too, by giving him as many years after her going out of this world, as he had given her before his coming into it; and -then as many more as God may receive glory, and the world benefit, by that addition; that so, as at their first meeting she was, at their last meeting he may be, the elder person.
67 Daughter of Sir Richard, sister of Sir Francis, aunt of Sir Richard Neuport, of Arcol.
68 Richard Herbert, of Blachehall in Montgomery, Esq., lineally descended from that great Sir Richard Herbert in Edward IV.'s time, and father of Edward Lord Herbert, Baron of Castle Island, late ambassador in France, and now (1627) of bis majesty's council of war.
To this consideration of her person then belongs this, that God gave her such a comeliness as, though she were not proud of it, yet she was so content with it, as not to go about to mend it by any art. And for her attire (which is another personal circumstance), it was never sumptuous, never sordid, but always agreeable to her quality and agreeable to her company; such as she might, and such as others, such as she was, did wear. For in such things of indifferency in themselves, many times, a singularity may be a little worse than a fellowship in that which is not altogether so good: it may be worse, nay, it may be a worse pride, to wear worse things than others do. Her rule was mediocrity.
69 Sir John Danvers, only brother to the Earl of Danby.
And, as to the consideration of the house belongs the consideration of the furniture too, so in these personal circumstances we consider her fortune, her estate, which was in a fair and noble proportion, derived from her first husband, and fairly and nobly dispensed by herself, with the allowance of her second, in which she was one of God's true stewards and almoners too. There are dispositions which had rather give presents than pay debts, and rather do good to strangers than to those that are nearer to them: but she always thought the care of her family a debt, and upon that for the provision, for the order, for the proportions, in a good largeness, she placed her first thoughts of that kind: for, for our families, we are God's stewards; for those without, we are his almoners. In which office she gave not at some great days, or some solemn goings abroad, but as God's true almoners, the sun and moon, that pass on in a continual doing of good, as she received her daily bread from God, so daily she distributed and imparted it to others. In which office, though she never turned her face from those who, in a strict inquisition, might be called idle and vagrant beggars, yet she ever looked first upon them who laboured, and whose labours could not overcome the difficulties, nor bring in the necessities of this life; and to the sweat of their brows she contributed even her wine, and her oil, and any thing that was, and any thing that might be, if it were not, prepared for her own table. And as her house was a court in the conversation of the best, and an almshouse in feeding the poor, so was it also an hospital in ministering relief to the sick. And truly the love of doing good in this kind, of ministering to the sick, was the honey that was spread over all her bread; the air, the perfume, that breathed over all her house; the disposition that dwelt in those her children, and those her kindred, which dwelt with her, so bending this way, that the studies and knowledge of one, the hand of another, and purse of all, and a joint facility and openness, and accessibleness to persons of the meanest quality, concurred in this blessed act of charity, to minister relief to the sick: of which myself, who at that time had the favour to be admitted into that family, can and must testify this, that when the late heavy visitation fell hotly upon this town, when every door was shut up, and, lest death should enter into the house, every house was made a sepulchre of them that were in it; then, then, in that time of infection, divers persons visited with that infection had their relief, and relief appliable to that very infection, from this house.
Now when I have said thus much (rather thus little) of her person, as of a house, that the ground upon which it was built was the family where she was born, and then where she was married, and then the time of her widowhood, and lastly her last marriage; and that the house itself was those fair bodily endowments which God had bestowed upon her, and the furniture of that house, the fortune, and the use of that fortune, of which God had made her steward and almoner: when I shall also have said, that the inhabitants of this house (rather the servants, for they did but wait upon religion in her) were those married couples of moral virtues, conversation married with a o
retiredness, facility married with a reservedness, alacrity married with a thoughtfulness, and largeness married with a providence, I may have leave to depart from this consideration of her person and personal circumstances, lest, by insisting longer upon them, I should seem to pretend to say all the good that might be said of her; but that is not in my purpose, yet only therefore because it is not in my power; for I would do her all right, and all you that good, if I could, to say all. But I haste to an end, in consideration of some things that appertain more expressly to me, than these personal, or civil, or moral things do.
In those the next is, the secundum promissa, That she governed herself according to his promises; his promises laid down in his Scriptures. For as the rule of all her civil actions was religion, so the rule of her religion was the Scripture; and her rule for her particular understanding of the Scripture was the church. She never diverted towards the Papist in undervaluing the Scripture, nor towards the Separatist in undervaluing the church: but in the doctrine and discipline of that church in which God sealed her to himself in baptism, she brought up her children, she assisted her family, she dedicated her soul to God in her life, and surrendered it to him in her death; and in that form of common prayer which is ordained by that church, and to which she had accustomed herself with her family twice every day, she joined with that company which was about her death-bed, in answering to every part thereof, which the congregation is directed to answer to, with a clear understanding, with a constant memory, with a distinct voice, not two hours before she died.
According to this promise, that is, the will of God manifested in the Scriptures, she expected, she expected this that she has received, God's physic and